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Kind is the New Happy

News of the nastiness we humans inflict on each other can leave you feeling heartbroken and powerless to impact what feels like a world gone mad. What can you do? While you and I may not be able to solve these overwhelming issues, we do control our own personal impact on the world.

It’s time to double down on being kind. Doing all you can individually to bring a little light to those you touch in your daily travels makes a more significant difference than you know. 

Mr. Rogers had it right when he said, “If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”

If You Want to Be Happy, Be Kind

new analysis of decades of research shows that we are healthier and happier when we are kind to others. Researchers analyzed the results from 126 research articles looking at almost 200,000 participants worldwide. The studies measured well-being in various ways, including mental and physical health. 

They found that kind people tended to have higher well-being, higher self-esteem, and a sense of self-efficacy. They also experienced less depression and anxiety and improved physical health.

Kindness is Contagious

The happiness people derive from giving to others creates a positive feedback loop: The positive feelings inspire further generosity—which, in turn, fuels greater happiness. And research suggests that kindness is truly contagious: Those who witness or benefit from others’ acts of kindness are more likely to be kind themselves; a single act of kindness spreads from person to person to person to person.

But, just because we have the capacity for kindness, and reap real benefits from it, doesn’t mean that we always act with kindness. We may be too busy, distracted, or wrapped up in our own concerns to seek out opportunities to be proactively kind. Or, we’re just out of practice. Kindness is like a muscle that will strengthen through repeated use until it becomes your default impulse.

Cultivating Kindness

Here are a few easy ways you can build your kindness muscle:

1. Listen when someone is talking to you without looking at your cell phone. Focused attention is a lost art and makes the other person feel genuinely seen and heard.
2. Clean up after yourself in public spaces.
3. Smile at people.
4. Be polite on the road—even with less-than-polite fellow drivers. We’ve all inadvertently cut someone off—give other drivers the benefit of the doubt.
5. Hold the door open for the person coming up behind you.
6. Notice what’s working and make a point of mentioning it to the person responsible.
7. Write thank-you notes to people who positively impact your life.
8. Give grace to those who fall below your standards in any way by remembering a time (or two!) when you stumbled.
9. Ask if you can help the next time you see someone who looks down, frustrated or overwhelmed.
10. Assume the best about someone unless proven otherwise, and act accordingly.

Go out of your way to treat everyone in your path the way you want to be treated, the way you want your child, your mother, and your dog to be treated–as valuable beings who matter. 

And, don’t forget to be kind to yourself, too!

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