You deserve to be happy. Sadly, the aftermath of divorce is very likely a huge drain on your current capacity for happiness. That’s normal and expected. But did you know there are pockets of bliss to be had even during this challenging time? You don’t have
Dear Deb:Seeing my Ex’s new girlfriend with my kids and grandkids is killing me. Last year, he moved from our house into hers after 36 years of marriage. I’d almost gotten used to the idea of her with him, but when he brought her to my grandson’s birthday party, I
Sometimes a mood gets ahold of you and you’re along for the ride until it passes. You’re especially vulnerable during divorce and its aftermath. Tough times and down days are part of the divorce experience. While it’s important to feel and process your feelings, there are some things you can
My heart felt like an empty hole in my chest . . . I was in so much pain I could hardly breathe—was it a heart attack? Kind of, it was a broken heart. I was in tears on and off for days as grief washed over me in waves.
Your Divorce Recovery Type determines how fast and how thoroughly you’ll recover, heal and thrive after divorce. Each type has a unique way of responding to the stresses and opportunities faced during divorce recovery. Once you’re aware of your type’s strengths and blind spots, you can take the right steps
Seeing yourself as the victim feels natural if your Ex cheated, lied, was a card-carrying narcissist, or an insufferable a-hole (or all of the above). But, sadly, labeling yourself a victim strips you of your power and piles pain on pain.Your Ex may have done terrible things and hurt you. Maybe,
Guilt and shame about divorce can permeate our lives like a fog that never quite lifts all the way, even years later. Those who leave second guess whether they tried hard enough. Those whose Ex initiated the split are left wondering what went wrong.“It’s six years after my divorce, and
Dear Deb: My Ex has spread rumors and lies about me to neighbors, friends and family. What can I do? Dear Concerned: Your Ex’s motivation for lying about you could be an attempt to control the narrative about your divorce and win supporters for their “side” of the story.
While in the turmoil of divorce, forgiveness is the last thing on your mind. There are many stages of divorce recovery before you can even begin to think about forgiveness. In a Divorce Magazine article, Allison Pescosolido identifies seven stages including:1. Trauma2. Shock and Denial3. Anger4. Sadness5. Acceptance6. Accountability7. Self DiscoveryForgiveness is
Divorce is life-altering for everyone, but research shows that women end up happier than men when it’s all said and done. In a 20-year study of 10,000 women and men, researchers at London’s Kingston University analyzed responses to common life milestones, including divorce. The survey asked participants to rate their