Many of us suffer from the “I’ll be happy when …” syndrome. When I get over my divorce, lose weight, get a better job, finally meet my soul mate, retire—whatever it is, it stands in the way of being happy right now. But it doesn’t
News of the nastiness we humans inflict on each other can leave you feeling heartbroken and powerless to impact what feels like a world gone mad. What can you do? While you and I may not be able to solve these overwhelming issues, we do
Not surprisingly, smart dating after divorce requires a new approach. One that is reflective and thoughtful in a different way than you may have been before. It’s time to milk your marriage and divorce for information and take lessons from your experiences to make choices
If the pandemic has taught us anything, it’s that there are no guarantees. If we’re honest, our divorces taught us that too. Even as you get your life back on track after these major derailments, you may find yourself falling back into letting the time
Dear Deb: I feel completely betrayed and my feelings of anger and resentment toward my Ex are eating me up. What can I do to change my thought process? Dear Angry Friend: You’ve been betrayed. It’s not right, it’s not fair and it’s outrageous. What
How nice are you . . . to yourself?During divorce recovery, your inner critic can have a field day judging you and making you feel guilty or inadequate or worthless. This barrage of negative thoughts is having an impact on your optimism and belief in
A friend recently asked, “How can I be more confident?” The answer is to act “as if” you’re already a confident person. This results in more actual confidence. This can work with any quality you want to cultivate . . . happiness, kindness, productivity, acceptance,
When the dust settles and you’re working on moving forward, forgiveness is the final act of wholly and completely recovering and healing from divorce.For many of us, it’s all too easy to hold on to bitterness, especially when it feels justified. Sadly, your bad feelings
Valentine’s Day can be tough when you’re single and don’t want to be. Check out Single on Valentine’s Day for a special three-minute video with three quick tips to reinvent Valentine’s Day and appreciate the benefits of being single. And, in case you would rather read it
There were many times during my divorce when my stress levels reached freak out status. My mind raced, my heart hammered and I was about as far from relaxed as you can get. Since moving in with my therapist for 24/7 hand-holding wasn’t an option,