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Use As Needed After Divorce: 15 Ways to Lift Your Mood

Sometimes a mood gets ahold of you and you’re along for the ride until it passes. You’re especially vulnerable during divorce and its aftermath. Tough times and down days are part of the divorce experience. While it’s important to feel and process your feelings, there are some things you can

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Going Gently Through the Grief of Divorce

My heart felt like an empty hole in my chest . . . I was in so much pain I could hardly breathe—was it a heart attack? Kind of, it was a broken heart. I was in tears on and off for days as grief washed over me in waves.

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Quiz: What’s Your Divorce Recovery Type?

Your Divorce Recovery Type determines how fast and how thoroughly you’ll recover, heal and thrive after divorce. Each type has a unique way of responding to the stresses and opportunities faced during divorce recovery. Once you’re aware of your type’s strengths and blind spots, you can take the right steps

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Are You Stuck in the Victim Loop?

Seeing yourself as the victim feels natural if your Ex cheated, lied, was a card-carrying narcissist, or an insufferable a-hole (or all of the above). But, sadly, labeling yourself a victim strips you of your power and piles pain on pain.Your Ex may have done terrible things and hurt you. Maybe,

The Secret to Clearing Divorce Guilt

Guilt and shame about divorce can permeate our lives like a fog that never quite lifts all the way, even years later. Those who leave second guess whether they tried hard enough. Those whose Ex initiated the split are left wondering what went wrong.“It’s six years after my divorce, and

Coach Talk: Straight Answers to Your Most Pressing Questions plus a headshot of Deb

My Ex has spread rumors and lies about me. What can I do?

Dear Deb: My Ex has spread rumors and lies about me to neighbors, friends and family. What can I do?   Dear Concerned: Your Ex’s motivation for lying about you could be an attempt to control the narrative about your divorce and win supporters for their “side” of the story.

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The Truth About Forgiving Your Ex: Top 4 Myths Busted

While in the turmoil of divorce, forgiveness is the last thing on your mind. There are many stages of divorce recovery before you can even begin to think about forgiveness. In a Divorce Magazine article, Allison Pescosolido identifies seven stages including:1. Trauma2. Shock and Denial3. Anger4. Sadness5. Acceptance6. Accountability7. Self DiscoveryForgiveness is

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Why Women are Happier Than Men After Divorce

Divorce is life-altering for everyone, but research shows that women end up happier than men when it’s all said and done. In a 20-year study of 10,000 women and men, researchers at London’s Kingston University analyzed responses to common life milestones, including divorce. The survey asked participants to rate their