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Going Gently Through the Grief of Divorce

My heart felt like an empty hole in my chest . . .I was in so much pain I could hardly breathe—was it a heart attack? Kind of, it was a broken heart. I was in tears on and off for days as grief washed over me in waves. Was

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Kind is the New Happy

News of the nastiness we humans inflict on each other can leave you feeling heartbroken and powerless to impact what feels like a world gone mad. What can you do? While you and I may not be able to solve these overwhelming issues, we do control our own personal impact

The Secret to Clearing Divorce Guilt

Guilt and shame about divorce can permeate our lives like a fog that never quite lifts all the way, even years later. Those who leave second guess whether they tried hard enough. Those whose Ex initiated the split are left wondering what went wrong.“It’s six years after my divorce, and

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Are You Wasting Precious Time?

If the pandemic has taught us anything, it’s that there are no guarantees.  If we’re honest, our divorces taught us that too. Even as you get your life back on track after these major derailments, you may find yourself falling back into letting the time fly by in “default” mode:

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A divorce attorney and a divorce coach walk into a bar . . .

Listen in on the conversation when I chat with divorce attorney Raiford Palmer, author of I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds, about the issues our clients face and our best advice for getting through divorce with your sanity

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My anger is Eating me Up. How do I Change my Thought Process?

Dear Deb: I feel completely betrayed and my feelings of anger and resentment toward my Ex are eating me up. What can I do to change my thought process? Dear Angry Friend: You’ve been betrayed. It’s not right, it’s not fair and it’s outrageous. What you’re feeling is normal and

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How Can My Ex Be So Cold & Uncaring After 28 Years of Marriage?

I recently asked my social media audience to share some of the biggest challenges they’re having when it comes to divorce. Here’s a poignant response I received:“My biggest challenge has been understanding how my Ex can be so cold and uncaring after 28 years of marriage. Since our separation, he’s

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Regrets, have a few? Here’s how to let them go

Once, I lost my life savings in a bad investment. My marriage was a trainwreck, even though I went into it thinking I did everything right. My first business failed . . . hard. I didn’t ask my grandparents enough questions before they died. I could go on. Is it