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Fake Your Way to Real Change

A friend recently asked, “How can I be more confident?” The answer is to act “as if” you’re already a confident person. This results in more actual confidence. This can work with any quality you want to cultivate . .  .  happiness, kindness, productivity, acceptance, etc. Ask yourself, “What does

How to Be Alone Without Being Lonely

Some people naturally enjoy being alone. Others, not so much. In either case, being alone after the ending of your marriage has a different, more lonely quality to it that’s part of the normal sadness that comes with divorce. As your recovery progresses, cultivating a love for your own company

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Use As Needed After Divorce: 15 Ways to Lift Your Mood

Sometimes a mood gets ahold of you and you’re along for the ride until it passes. You’re especially vulnerable during divorce and its aftermath. Tough times and down days are part of the divorce experience. While it’s important to feel and process your feelings, there are some things you can

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Going Gently Through the Grief of Divorce

My heart felt like an empty hole in my chest . . . I was in so much pain I could hardly breathe—was it a heart attack? Kind of, it was a broken heart. I was in tears on and off for days as grief washed over me in waves.

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Quiz: What’s Your Divorce Recovery Type?

Your Divorce Recovery Type determines how fast and how thoroughly you’ll recover, heal and thrive after divorce. Each type has a unique way of responding to the stresses and opportunities faced during divorce recovery. Once you’re aware of your type’s strengths and blind spots, you can take the right steps

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Are You Stuck in the Victim Loop?

Seeing yourself as the victim feels natural if your Ex cheated, lied, was a card-carrying narcissist, or an insufferable a-hole (or all of the above). But, sadly, labeling yourself a victim strips you of your power and piles pain on pain.Your Ex may have done terrible things and hurt you. Maybe,

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Coping with the Pain of Divorce

Divorce hurts. Unfortunately, there’s no shortcut through the pain and process of divorce recovery. But, there are things you can do to support yourself in weathering the ups and downs with resilience. My Coping with the Pain of Divorce video can help. If you would rather read than watch, the transcript is
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Five Minutes a Day to a Better Life: Easy & Fun Gratitude Tracker

Just five minutes a day of gratitude journaling provides a multitude of benefits backed up by research. Gratitude is good for everything from improved health, better sleep, and more energy to more happiness, less stress, more resilience and even better relationships. If gratitude is so good for us, why aren’t