How nice are you . . . to yourself?During divorce recovery, your inner critic can have a field day judging you and making you feel guilty or inadequate or worthless. This barrage of negative thoughts is having an impact on your optimism and belief in
There’s a reason getting over our marriages is so painful. We deeply invest our hearts in our intimate relationships and they become an essential part of us. That’s why betrayals are so traumatic. It’s also why an Ex can still feel like “your person” long
“What’s a good way to stop feeling left out in a world of couples? I’m heading to a picnic in a little while, party of one. At least I am going, proud of myself for that!”One of the members of my wonderful Thriving After Divorce Facebook
This is a question I get frequently, and it’s understandable. When you’ve been married most or all of your adult life, the question of how long it’s going to take to get over it is top of mind. After being married for years, it’s natural
Some people naturally enjoy being alone. Others, not so much. In either case, being alone after the ending of your marriage has a different, more lonely quality to it that’s part of the normal sadness that comes with divorce. As your recovery progresses, cultivating a
Your Divorce Recovery Type determines how fast and how thoroughly you’ll recover, heal and thrive after divorce. Each type has a unique way of responding to the stresses and opportunities faced during divorce recovery. Once you’re aware of your type’s strengths and blind spots, you
Seeing yourself as the victim feels natural if your Ex cheated, lied, was a card-carrying narcissist, or an insufferable a-hole (or all of the above). But, sadly, labeling yourself a victim strips you of your power and piles pain on pain.Your Ex may have done terrible
Divorce is life-altering for everyone, but research shows that women end up happier than men when it’s all said and done. In a 20-year study of 10,000 women and men, researchers at London’s Kingston University analyzed responses to common life milestones, including divorce. The survey
Valentine’s Day can be tough when you’re single and don’t want to be. Check out Single on Valentine’s Day for a special three-minute video with three quick tips to reinvent Valentine’s Day and appreciate the benefits of being single. And, in case you would rather read it
There were many times during my divorce when my stress levels reached freak out status. My mind raced, my heart hammered and I was about as far from relaxed as you can get. Since moving in with my therapist for 24/7 hand-holding wasn’t an option,