Dear Deb:I thought I’d married a great guy and that we had a good marriage. Then I found out he had an affair for the last five years of our 22-year marriage. The divorce is bad enough, but I’ve lost all faith in humanity. How will I ever be able
Some people naturally enjoy being alone. Others, not so much. In either case, being alone after the ending of your marriage has a different, more lonely quality to it that’s part of the normal sadness that comes with divorce. As your recovery progresses, cultivating a love for your own company
Your Divorce Recovery Type determines how fast and how thoroughly you’ll recover, heal and thrive after divorce. Each type has a unique way of responding to the stresses and opportunities faced during divorce recovery. Once you’re aware of your type’s strengths and blind spots, you can take the right steps
Seeing yourself as the victim feels natural if your Ex cheated, lied, was a card-carrying narcissist, or an insufferable a-hole (or all of the above). But, sadly, labeling yourself a victim strips you of your power and piles pain on pain.Your Ex may have done terrible things and hurt you. Maybe,
When the dust settles and you’re working on moving forward, forgiveness is the final act of wholly and completely recovering and healing from divorce.For many of us, it’s all too easy to hold on to bitterness, especially when it feels justified. Sadly, your bad feelings don’t hurt your Ex, but
Divorce is life-altering for everyone, but research shows that women end up happier than men when it’s all said and done. In a 20-year study of 10,000 women and men, researchers at London’s Kingston University analyzed responses to common life milestones, including divorce. The survey asked participants to rate their
Just five minutes a day of gratitude journaling provides a multitude of benefits backed up by research. Gratitude is good for everything from improved health, better sleep, and more energy to more happiness, less stress, more resilience and even better relationships. If gratitude is so good for us, why aren’t
Getting a night of good sleep is important to improving and maintaining good health. Frustratingly, there are many things that can impact sleep quality. Divorce-related stress can do a major number on your ability to sleep well. If you ever have trouble falling asleep or, like me, you wake up
