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Quiz: What’s Your Divorce Recovery Type?

Your Divorce Recovery Type determines how fast and how thoroughly you’ll recover, heal and thrive after divorce. Each type has a unique way of responding to the stresses and opportunities faced during divorce recovery. Once you’re aware of your type’s strengths and blind spots, you can take the right steps

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Are You Stuck in the Victim Loop?

Seeing yourself as the victim feels natural if your Ex cheated, lied, was a card-carrying narcissist, or an insufferable a-hole (or all of the above). But, sadly, labeling yourself a victim strips you of your power and piles pain on pain.Your Ex may have done terrible things and hurt you. Maybe,

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My Ex has spread rumors and lies about me. What can I do?

Dear Deb: My Ex has spread rumors and lies about me to neighbors, friends and family. What can I do?   Dear Concerned: Your Ex’s motivation for lying about you could be an attempt to control the narrative about your divorce and win supporters for their “side” of the story.

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The Truth About Forgiving Your Ex: Top 4 Myths Busted

When the dust settles and you’re working on moving forward, forgiveness is the final act of wholly and completely recovering and healing from divorce.For many of us, it’s all too easy to hold on to bitterness, especially when it feels justified. Sadly, your bad feelings don’t hurt your Ex, but

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Why Women are Happier Than Men After Divorce

Divorce is life-altering for everyone, but research shows that women end up happier than men when it’s all said and done. In a 20-year study of 10,000 women and men, researchers at London’s Kingston University analyzed responses to common life milestones, including divorce. The survey asked participants to rate their

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Coping with the Pain of Divorce

Divorce hurts. Unfortunately, there’s no shortcut through the pain and process of divorce recovery. But, there are things you can do to support yourself in weathering the ups and downs with resilience. My Coping with the Pain of Divorce video can help. If you would rather read than watch, the transcript is
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Five Minutes a Day to a Better Life: Easy & Fun Gratitude Tracker

Just five minutes a day of gratitude journaling provides a multitude of benefits backed up by research. Gratitude is good for everything from improved health, better sleep, and more energy to more happiness, less stress, more resilience and even better relationships. If gratitude is so good for us, why aren’t

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Deb’s Foolproof Fall Asleep Trick!

Getting a night of good sleep is important to improving and maintaining good health. Frustratingly, there are many things that can impact sleep quality. Divorce-related stress can do a major number on your ability to sleep well. If you ever have trouble falling asleep or, like me, you wake up