Dear Deb: My Ex has spread rumors and lies about me to neighbors, friends and family. What can I do? Dear Concerned: Your Ex’s motivation for lying about you could be an attempt to control the narrative about your divorce and win supporters for their “side” of the story.
You deserve to be happy. Sadly, the aftermath of divorce is very likely a huge drain on your current capacity for happiness. That’s normal and expected. But did you know there are pockets of bliss to be had even during this challenging time? You don’t have
Dear Deb: My ex wants us to get together with our adult children for the holidays like we are all a happy family. He had multiple affairs, and we finally divorced after 32 years. I am not comfortable being with my ex. How do I proceed?Dear Uncomfortable:The holidays are notorious
Sometimes a mood gets ahold of you, and you’re along for the ride until it passes. You’re especially vulnerable during divorce and its aftermath. Tough times and down days are part of the divorce experience. While it’s important to feel and process your feelings, there are some things you can
Dear Deb:Seeing my Ex’s new girlfriend with my kids and grandkids is killing me. Last year, he moved from our house into hers after 36 years of marriage. I’d almost gotten used to the idea of her with him, but now he wants to bring her to our family holiday
During a typical day, how much of your time is spent thinking about your Ex? Are they on your mind when you wake up? Do they pop in throughout the day? Are you ruminating for hours?It’s normal! You’ve been with this person for the better part of your adulthood. The
Many of us suffer from the “I’ll be happy when …” syndrome. When I get over my divorce, lose weight, get a better job, finally meet my soul mate, retire—whatever it is, it stands in the way of being happy right now. But it doesn’t have to. If you’re constantly
What you think about your divorce has more bearing on how quickly and how thoroughly you recover, heal and thrive than anything else. You can take your power back by making the decision to use your divorce experience to change your life for the better.Tune into my interview from the “Thriving
My heart felt like an empty hole in my chest . . .I was in so much pain I could hardly breathe—was it a heart attack? Kind of, it was a broken heart. I was in tears on and off for days as grief washed over me in waves. Was
News of the nastiness we humans inflict on each other can leave you feeling heartbroken and powerless to impact what feels like a world gone mad. What can you do? While you and I may not be able to solve these overwhelming issues, we do control our own personal impact