Dear Deb: My Ex has spread rumors and lies about me to neighbors, friends and family. What can I do? Dear Concerned: Your Ex’s motivation for lying about you could be an attempt to control the narrative about your divorce and win supporters for
You deserve to be happy. Sadly, the aftermath of divorce is very likely a huge drain on your current capacity for happiness. That’s normal and expected. But did you know there are pockets of bliss to be had even during this
Dear Deb: My ex wants us to get together with our adult children for the holidays like we are all a happy family. He had multiple affairs, and we finally divorced after 32 years. I am not comfortable being with my ex. How do I
Sometimes a mood gets ahold of you, and you’re along for the ride until it passes. You’re especially vulnerable during divorce and its aftermath. Tough times and down days are part of the divorce experience. While it’s important to feel and process your feelings, there
Dear Deb:Seeing my Ex’s new girlfriend with my kids and grandkids is killing me. Last year, he moved from our house into hers after 36 years of marriage. I’d almost gotten used to the idea of her with him, but now he wants to bring
During a typical day, how much of your time is spent thinking about your Ex? Are they on your mind when you wake up? Do they pop in throughout the day? Are you ruminating for hours?It’s normal! You’ve been with this person for the better
What you think about your divorce has more bearing on how quickly and how thoroughly you recover, heal and thrive than anything else. You can take your power back by making the decision to use your divorce experience to change your life for the better.Tune
My heart felt like an empty hole in my chest . . .I was in so much pain I could hardly breathe—was it a heart attack? Kind of, it was a broken heart. I was in tears on and off for days as grief washed
Guilt and shame about divorce can permeate our lives like a fog that never quite lifts all the way, even years later. Those who leave second guess whether they tried hard enough. Those whose Ex initiated the split are left wondering what went wrong.“It’s six
Dear Deb: I moved out two months ago, and I just ran into my Ex out with someone else. This really hurts. Why is it so much easier and faster for men to move on? Dear Hurt Friend: From the outside, it certainly “looks” easy