Not surprisingly, smart dating after divorce requires a new approach. One that is reflective and thoughtful in a different way than you may have been before. It’s time to milk your marriage and divorce for information and take lessons from your experiences to make choices that work better for you.
If the pandemic has taught us anything, it’s that there are no guarantees. If we’re honest, our divorces taught us that too. Even as you get your life back on track after these major derailments, you may find yourself falling back into letting the time fly by in “default” mode:
Dear Deb: I moved out two months ago, and I just ran into my Ex out with someone else. This really hurts. Why is it so much easier and faster for men to move on? Dear Hurt Friend: From the outside, it certainly “looks” easy for those men who jump
When it comes to forgiving your Ex, you may be resisting because you think it lets them off the hook. In this episode, I bust the four most common forgiveness myths and give you the best reason to consider forgiving your Ex— NOT FOR THEM! — but for your peace
Listen in on the conversation when I chat with divorce attorney Raiford Palmer, author of I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds, about the issues our clients face and our best advice for getting through divorce with your sanity
Dear Deb: I feel completely betrayed and my feelings of anger and resentment toward my Ex are eating me up. What can I do to change my thought process? Dear Angry Friend: You’ve been betrayed. It’s not right, it’s not fair and it’s outrageous. What you’re feeling is normal and
Confidence is your ability to trust in yourself, your judgment and your abilities. It contributes to optimism about the future, willingness to take risks, and the ability to learn from your past — all things that support divorce recovery.It’s normal to find your self-confidence level on life support in the aftermath of
How nice are you . . . to yourself?During divorce recovery, your inner critic can have a field day judging you and making you feel guilty or inadequate or worthless. This barrage of negative thoughts is having an impact on your optimism and belief in your ability to bounce back
I recently asked my social media audience to share some of the biggest challenges they’re having when it comes to divorce. Here’s a poignant response I received:“My biggest challenge has been understanding how my Ex can be so cold and uncaring after 28 years of marriage. Since our separation, he’s
Would you rather have a breakthrough or a setback? It’s all in how you’re looking at it. The good news: What’s going wrong is subject to interpretation. The bad news: Most of us default to negative interpretations of difficult and unchosen circumstances. But we don’t have to stick with our