Divorce hurts. Unfortunately, there’s no shortcut through the pain and process of divorce recovery. But, weathering the ups and downs of divorce is greatly supported by your capacity for resilience—the ability to adapt in the face of adversity. The good …
Sometimes a mood gets ahold of you and you’re along for the ride until it passes. You’re especially vulnerable in the weeks and months after divorce or other life challenge. While tough times are part of the divorce experience, there …
If you’re like most people, you aren’t sure of the best response when confronted with a divorce revelation from a friend. If you’ve gone through your own divorce, you’re probably painfully aware of just how unhelpful, or downright hurtful, the …
When telling your divorce story, seeing yourself as the victim is very seductive, especially if your Ex cheated, lied and/or left. A victim isn’t responsible and that’s the problem because it undermines your life authority. Yes, this person has done …
From the moment one spouse makes a decision to leave, both people start on a transition which follows predictable stages. Regardless of who initiated the divorce, many people experience a version of the process captured on the Divorce Process Flow …
Breaking up is hard to do and it may be especially hard on the kids if they feel torn between warring parents. While I like to put the focus on what “to do” rather than what “not to do,” there …
Dear Deb:
My brother has been my rock during my divorce. My problem is that while I’m actually starting to move past my anger at my Ex, my brother can’t. He constantly makes snide comments about my Ex. It’s wearing …
My heart felt like an empty hole in my chest. I was in so much pain I could hardly breathe—was it a heart attack? Kind of, it was a broken heart. I was in tears on and off for days …
Why didn’t I ask my grandma more questions before it was too late? Why didn’t I take more videos of the kids when they were little? Why didn’t I stand up for myself during my marriage? These were just a …
