When it comes to your Ex, it’s all too easy to hold on to bitterness, especially when it feels justified. Most people don’t blame you and many jump right in and join you. Sadly, your bad feelings don’t hurt your …
From the moment one spouse makes a decision to leave, both people start on a transition which follows predictable stages. Regardless of who initiated the divorce, many people experience a version of the process captured on the Divorce Process Flow …
Dear Deb:
My brother has been my rock during my divorce. My problem is that while I’m actually starting to move past my anger at my Ex, my brother can’t. He constantly makes snide comments about my Ex. It’s wearing …
You have a story about your marriage and how it ended. Our personal narratives about our hardships are important. They help us make sense of challenging life events. Difficulties arise not because you have a story, even a sad or …
Not all marriages are meant to last a lifetime. Resisting this simple fact feeds the destructive cycle of shame and blame. When it comes to divorce, the societal consensus is that something has gone terribly wrong. The “divorce = failure” …
What if what’s going wrong is subject to interpretation? It is possible that there are gifts in everything that happens, even painful and unpleasant experiences?
If, just for a minute, we can take our focus off of our suffering, we …
Imagine that you could bend time and sit down to tea with with yourself at age 95. What would your elder self, who already knows how it all turned out, say to you? Think of your wise sage self
