Once, I lost my life savings in a bad investment. My marriage was a spectacular disaster. My first business failed. I never finished the baby books (kids are grown). Plus, LOTS of other things.
Here’s the truth: life is a big science experiment. We try things. Some work out, some don’t. The problem comes when we start making the things that didn’t work out, commonly known as mistakes, mean that we are defective in some way. They don’t mean that. They are just things we tried. That didn’t work out. Now we can try something else and see if it works out better. That’s it.
You Get to Choose!
If you have the courage to participate in the science experiment, then you can find the gumption to learn from the results. You can choose to focus on what’s working and do more of that. You can choose to go out there and keep trying.
See the pattern? It’s a choice. Every minute of every day. You don’t have to judge yourself for your missteps. You can choose to love yourself and forgive yourself. Learn from what’s happened and go try something else. See what happens. Learn. Repeat.
Or, you can sign up to be a screw up—that means you identify yourself with your mistakes instead of the wisdom you can glean from them. Up to you.
You are already equipped with everything you need to manage this LIFE that you’ve been given. It’s a big job. Luckily it’s broken down into bite-sized pieces. They are called minutes! Just be present in this minute and make the best decision you can. Over time, decisions that work for you will build on each other and you’ll get results you like. If you make a decision that doesn’t work out—review it for what you can learn. Choose differently. See what happens. Move on.
I believe in you! But it doesn’t matter at all what I think about you. It doesn’t matter what your mom, your boss, your best friend, your worst enemy or anyone else thinks about you. The only thing that matters is what YOU think about you. Here’s another choice—you can decide to believe in yourself.
Deb Purdy, is a transformation coach, speaker, workshop leader and author of Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce. Visit www.DebPurdy.com for more information.